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Saturday, September 18, 2010

Now Who Is Judgmental?

I hooted when I watched the exchange in the video below, because it reminds me of many I've had over the years. When I was teaching Natural Family Planning I often had people ask me about it. Then a few minutes into the conversation they would start attacking the Church's teaching. I'd scratch my head and ask, "Uh, who brought up this conversation? I'm not trying to force you to use NFP; I was just answering your questions." Then I'd drop it.

The reality is that a guilty conscience needs no accuser and oftentimes people are convicted by your existence if you are trying to lead an authentic, integrated Christian life. I think the best thing to do in these situations is keep your sense of humor.

When I was pregnant with my fifth, several people (at Church no less) said things like, "I thought you taught that birth control thing." At first I was offended but I knew I couldn't get through the entire pregnancy angry so I started laughing and replying, "Yes, and if you use the fertile time, you get a baby." Another woman at Church asked me, "What does your husband think?" That really made me laugh, and I ansered, "He was there!" An anti-life culture provides lots of opportunities to witness to the truth just by being who you are. A smile on your faith, love of neighbor in your heart, and a silent prayer in your mind cover a lot of awkward situations.


  1. vaticanstitches@gmail.comSeptember 21, 2010 at 11:10 AM

    i just had this same conversation the other day. you must have been there with your video camera! hahaha

  2. How did you embed this in your post? I can't figure out how to do it on wordpress!

    This is our life! My wife and I have had conversations like this many, many times!

  3. That is so funny! I'm pregnant with my 5th, and it just sounds like half my conversations these days!!! :)

  4. Colleen made this. From the CCF board - she's too shy and silly to claim it, but we were chatting on FB about it and she came up with it almost on the spot. She pretty much nailed the hypocrisy of the judgmental argument. :)