|This is the day that the Lord has made. Let us rejoice and be glad in it. Psalm 118:24|
I used to know a woman at my parish in Alexandria, VA who was always grumpy, always complaining, and as rude as could be to those around her. I'll call her Grumpy. She was elderly and no doubt had medical issues and other problems. But she wasn't, as far as I know, mentally ill or suffering from dementia. She just seemed to revel in being miserable and spreading her misery to others. And then she wondered why people avoided her. It was a head-shaker. Really, Grumpy, you treat people with disdain and rudeness and wonder why they don't want to spend time with you? Hello? Reality calling!
Another friend at the parish whom I admired greatly was a kind and loving person who never gave up on Grumpy. How much I wanted to be like her with the Grumpys in my own life. We all have them and, often, they are people to whom we have a duty to love (more or less related to their family proximity).
I consider my order of duty to be this:
- GOD! Always first and includes praying for the pope, my bishop, and my parish priests;
- My husband; we have a duty to help each other get to heaven;
- My children and their families for whom I pray every day by name;
- Our godchildren and their families (all nine of them);
- My extended family: siblings, nieces and nephews and cousins - often prayed for generally because of the numbers;
- My co-workers and friends - who move up higher in the duty line depending on the intimacy of the relationship. Some friends are spiritual sisters, brothers, or children.