Costly weddings could be crippling for new marriages
The Marriage Foundation is focusing its mission on educating couples about the benefits of getting married and having children, and helping them to realize they can have a wedding reception focused on what’s important, rather than on extravagant spending.Really -- do you need a $5000 dollar engagement ring and an $800 dollar dress? Do you need a fancy "venue" with a price tag to match? Will you be less married if you opt for simple homemade wedding cake instead of a gourmet, white chocolate, raspberry filled whatever? And do you really need a $500 limo for the thirty minutes you spend riding from home to the church and the church to the reception?
I love blogger Melissa Naasko's advice “never ever, ever buy a bridal magazine...because they’re all geared just to sell stuff.” Yup...and the bigger and fancier the better...for the wedding industry that is.
Too many couples focus on all the wedding hoopla and think the marriage will take care of itself. But the wedding is just one day and only about 1/4 of a day at that. Focusing on the marriage makes a lot more sense and focusing on the people coming to the wedding rather than the hoopla makes even better sense. If you don't have a big back yard, how about renting a pavilion at a local park?
Everyone has talented family and friends who can help out as well. Wouldn't that be a great and more personal wedding gift than a blender? I hope backyard wedding receptions will become the rage. I've been to a few and they were no less enjoyable (in some cases more so) than the extravaganzas at the hotels which, come to think about it, are more like cookie-cutter events. If you're planning a wedding, think simple. The money you save is better spent saving toward your first home. Invest in marriage, not in the wedding day festivities.