If you want to see fur fly, talk about homosexuality. Mike Voris and Melinda Selmys have been engaged in an exchange about how to approach the homosexual issue and change hearts and minds. I'm following it and it occurred to me this morning that it's like the Battle of Manassas: brothers shooting at one another and lots of folks coming out with their picnics to watch the battle. The angels must be looking down saying, "Lord, what fools these mortals be." Some of the battle is revealed at one of my favorite blogs, Abbey Roads. I entered the fray myself with a comment on Terry's blog and I'll post it here for what it's worth. We have an obligation to love each other where we are even when we call each other to holiness. But sometimes the differences are so great it's hard to get close enough to hear one another. Please pray for all those fighting the homosexual agenda while trying to evangelize those caught up in the immoral lifestyle.
And here's the blog comment I left at Abbey-Roads:
I have a same sex attracted young friend. We met when I was a 30-something young mom and he was in high school. He was very active in the pro-life movement and the Catholic Herald did an article on him. I called to give him an "atta boy" and he started calling me regularly -- usually several times a week. I think I was like a second mom for awhile.
He got somewhat obsessed with Franklin Kameny, the gay D.C. activist and was calling him. I got concerned because he had a troubled background (molested by a school councilor, absent dad, etc.) and I urged him to stay away from Kameny but could see it was like a moth to a flame.
To make a long story short he got into the gay lifestyle, was a board member of the D.C. gay pro-life group, and stopped calling me. It was about ten years later that I was working at a crisis pregnancy center when he called. We reconnected. He'd been to the bottom (drugs, alcohol, etc.) but wanted out and back into his faith. Today he is clean, drug-free, back in school, and making straight A's. I'm so proud of him. But there was a time HE stopped calling me and had moved away. Like the prodigal son's father, I could only wait and pray for him to come to his senses.
Melinda, my experience (which is limited to my friend and a few others) is that, unless you approve the lifestyle, most gays stereotype you as a vicious homophobe who wants to nail them to the sticking post. I have a whole file of hateful letters, emails, and posts from homosexuals who don't like what I write. Who rejects whom? Sometimes the only thing you CAN do is pray and wait.
I read an article years ago about a homosexual young man who hated his parents because they would not accept his lifestyle. When he contracted AIDS it was his parents who brought him home and cared for him. All his homosexual friends were stunned when they finally met the parents, because the portrait of them painted by their son was so different from the reality. Sin makes people blind. Men like Voris appear like devils with horns to them for speaking a truth they don't want to hear. (Brian Camenker of Mass Resistance is a good example. The Mass homo-active gang detest him and constantly slander him for daring to expose the unbelievable evils they are trying to impose in the schools, etc.!)
I admire the courage, dedication and perseverance of men like Voris and Camenker and applaud them for standing up to a movement that (along with unfaithful, contracepting, aborting, divorcing Christians) is destroying the culture.
I suspect, Melinda, that you and Mike Voris have more in common than you realize if you put down your shotguns and stop shooting at each other. What a waste of energy that could go into working together! I'm praying my rosary today for you both.